The stability and dispersion of aerogels in concrete is the key to the successful preparation and application of aerogels / concrete insulation materials. In this paper, the stable aerogel / concrete material was prepared by adjusting and controlling the chemical state of aerogel surface under the action of hydrophilic concrete system and mechanical agitation. The interaction between aerogel and concrete matrix and other important factors on the stability of aerogel structure were studied. The samples were characterized by Fourier transform infrared spectroscopy, thermogravimetric analysis, nitrogen adsorption-desorption isotherm, scanning electron microscopy and thermal conductivity analyzer. The results showed that the surfactant was successfully adhered to the aerogel surface by adjusting and controlling the kinetic parameters. Aerogel particles were stable in concrete and retain their original shape. With the increase of aerogel content, the thermal conductivity of concrete decreased.